Jack three beans, Thanks for replying, Yes he is still very much an alchoholic, but he has layed off of the drugs i was referring to. When he moved out this second time, @ first he was saying that he was going to try and not drink so much, but then about 5 minutes later he was saying that he was excited about where his new apartment is because its right next to all the bars in our town, and therefore he wont have to drink and drive. Its like everything he says is followed up with another sentence that completely negates what he previously said. Another example is that when he moved out this second time he got a 6 month lease, and was saying to me at first "I don't want to lead you on or give you any hope that we might ever be able to get back together", and then in the next sentence he says "but you never know what we may be feeling in 6 months from now". I think he is Bi-polar (and he admits to it, and read alot about it the first time he left me, and it runs in his family). This time when he left me again, he was cutting himself down in words,pacing the house, and silently thinking to himself alot. I feel like he just couldn't handle all of the pressures of the season, and snapped. As far as I could tell there may not be OW at this time, but I also have not snooped. I Would like to think that he is moving into the stages of depression/withdrawl, and hopefully not slipping back into replay. I don't know wether to be nice and friendly to him anymore, or to put my foot down the next time I see him and say "A friend would not treat a friend the way he has me, therefore we have no reason to be in contact", or is that too strong? Thanks again, and I will be getting Internet service on monday so I will be able to come here more often then and look at others posts, as I am at a friends computer now. Tipper
