W and I still sleep in separate rooms, except maybe once a month. I am of two minds on this. On the one hand, I think that we might have spontaneous sex if we are sleeping together (doesn't happen). On the other hand, I really sleep much better alone. Also I'm not a huge fan of cuddling while sleeping - I mean what's the point, we're asleep! And I snore, which W hates.
I would take your W at her word. Her pillow is just a pillow.
What I crave is intimacy, preferably during waking hours. A lot of that intimacy can occur in the company of others, but some must be just between the two of us.
A relationship without sex is like a plant with water and sunshine, but no fertilizer. Thrives for a while, but a slow painful death is inevitable. A gross, but apt, metaphor.
