Walking The Line

[peaceful_spirit]

Aud,
I think it's a combination of a few things... You do need to still be loving, supportive, etc... but you also need to hold your H accountable for being a husband and a father. This is different then nagging or putting rules on him.

The diamond ring sound amazing. And i can understand why you worry about the motivations behind it. I probably would, too. But at some point, we all need to take things at face value. Maybe he did that for you because he loves you and wanted to do something nice for you for Christmas.

so, he's out of the hosue at night a lot. Is this within his control? IF so, I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask him if he could back off the work thing one night.

I know you're scared to initiate any talks with your H. But do make sure that the lines of communication are open. So, if there are things that bother you, you should gently tell him that. Or if there are things that you need from him that you're not getting, you should ask for it. Otherwise, resentment will start to build within you.

This is a fine line. It's a balance between communicating enough to keep things healthy with your H and not communicating too much.

Have you thought about seeing a MC alone? This might be very helpful for you to understand your role in the M and what YOU can do to contribute to the building of your R.