I agree that it is incredibly hard to have no expectations or not to get excited when your H seems loving and attentive. I have no idea how to do it myself. It's the hopefulness that keeps me going, the positive signs that make me feel like it will be OK.
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08