Willing to be disturbed...

[fooled again]

Hi Em, Wow, do I understand what you must be feeling. The last thing you need after all you've been through is for H to reject your advances. It really does suck, but the affection you share sounds really, really good and it will pave the way to more intimacy. I guess it really is all about recognizing small steps, like I keep reading in DR.

I share your struggle with the listening - I actually have to remind myself (in my head, of course) to shut up and not immediately say something in reaction to what my H says. I have a tendency to not let him finish his sentences. I've also been trying to speak more slowly and calmly, especially when I'm upset - my H seems to listen better when I talk that way.

I was just looking at your signature and noticed that your H's A lasted about as long and during the same approximate time as my H's A, as well as that of Limbo's H's A. I wonder if there was some evil cosmic force going on during that time?

Yet I seem to be way more screwed up right now than either of you. I guess I just haven't spent enough time on me, GAL-ing.

You should be really proud of your patience. I am.