Did I Screw Up?

[Jen1967]

How do I jump to lwb's thread? I'm showing my newbie-ness.

[Yoyowife]

Jen,
What you need to do probably is make a list of all your assets and accounts(joint and individual). You can try to come up with a way of dividing things equally. Of course do this first without letting him know. You could probably agree that you won't touch his retirement if he doesn't touch yours.

[Dr LOve]

Jen,

Since my w earns more than me when she works I am entitled to "Alimony” Cool.... when it works in your favor

DL

[Ohio_Mark]

Ohio Mark: What should have I said when he said he missed the family?

Also, if he says he wants to open up to me and talk about us again, what should I say/do?

When he said he misses you and the family, your husband was speaking a foreign language. Fortunately, I speak "Alien Spew," so here is the translation of what he said:

"I still love you and the kids. I also love this second life that I have created. I am so damn confused about what to do next."

Give him a good reason, and he will leave you. Do what H4C says, and you have a shot.

Also, if he says he wants to open up to me and talk about us again, what should I say/do?

Listen, listen, listen. Acknowledge but do not agree:

"This is probably very difficult for you."
"You have been through a lot."
"I can understand how you would feel that way."
"While I don't agree, I can see how you would feel that way."

OK?

[SueS]

Jen- Just go up to the top of the page & click on the Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy link. That will take you to the list of our threads. lwb is....day by day.

I hope that works.

Sue

[Ohio_Mark]

Click here:
lwb's thread

[LL44]

Sue, yes. I have two. One I started forever ago (that I still contribute to) and then my TSP, which I started 8 yrs ago.

I wish for karma too, not bad things for our H's, but good things for us.....

[SueS]

Or do it the easy way and use Mark's link!

He's a little quicker than I.

Sue

[Jen1967]

Thanks Ohio Mark. I enjoyed a nice audible laugh with your alien spew comment.

[Yoyowife]

I often think since this has happened to me, that surely this is God's way of letting me know that there is something better out there for me.