but can y'all clarify something for me? Isn't this pressure for a Wayward spouse? All that heartfelt emotion, isn't that what they are trying to hide from?
I have similar feelings for my wife, but my dbing guidance says "back away". At this point, papers are filed and W is still seeing OM and I am not sending her romantic cards or notes.
My maintaining my distance is not really "working".
So what now?
SirPriz,
I did not have time to read your sitch yet, but...... TO ME DBing is a theory, a guild line. No two sitches are alike. Yes this is mild pursuing. But..... In my sitch I believe My Wife was depressed and unhappy with our marriage. And instead of coming to me and talking about it. (I truly had no clue, I thought it was some menopause thing) she went to her Ex Fu@Ken MARRIED BF. Who has no morals and (I believe) used her. She has not had physical contact with him in 8 + months. When I first found out she was calling him (actually the cheap basterd would call her on a pay phone and have her call him back.) 7-8 times a day. I have not checked the phone records in months but if she is calling him now it has to be after I go to bed. And I don't think he would be standing out in the cold by a phone booth waiting to talk to her. (Heck I wouldn’t) Anyway I don't know your sitch but in mine we have been on an even keel now for about two months. We are too comfortable to move forward so I need to shake things up a bit if I don't want to stay at this level forever. I so don't want to get D but I also want to find someone to share my life with and if she can't do that then I need to be free to find someone who will. I will not have an affair and "pretend to be married". We would be fooling no one but ourselves. Sirpriz, I have gone though the whole smorgasbord of DBing, the crying, the begging, the going dark, the heavy presuming, the "as if" , and the let's be friends. My W is not leaving me. At least not yet. But she is not contributing to our lives more than a room mate. In Fact that was one of the first subject titles I had. "My wife my roommate"
I had a little slip last night, I am not worried about it, she may not have even heard it but she was on the phone with her mom and was talking about MY dog and how it sleeps in the room she sleeps in (Our Sons). And how the dog is a "Bed hog". I replied "It's your choice". Anyway I think she may have been over her moms all day yesterday keeping busy and “thinking things over". She has not been over her mom's for all day as long as I have known her. Her mom is not doing to well right now but she is improving. And like I said she did come home in a good mood so we will see.
Later Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Weekly Horoscope: Thu, Dec 27 - Thu, Jan 3 Pisces (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
The Moon in your 7th house of partnership on Friday complicates relationships with too much thinking. If you're frustrated, or can't find the answers you seek, wait until Saturday. That's when the objective guidance of someone you trust can help you figure out if it's possible or worthwhile to resolve the issue.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
If ya like Queen at least listen to “we are the champions”…..
Now for me it’s more like:
I was always the crazy one I broke into the stadium And I wrote your number on the 50 yard line You were always the perfect one And the valadictorian so Under your number I wrote "call for a good time"
I only wanted to catch your attention But you overlooked me somehow Besides you had too many boyfriends to mention And I played my guitar too loud.
How do you like me now? How do you like me now, Now that I'm on my way? Do you still think I'm crazy Standin here today? I couldnt make you love me But I always dreamed about living in your radio How do you like me now?
When I took off to Tennessee I heard that you made fun of me Never imagined I'd make it this far Then you married into money girl Aint it a cruel and funny world? He took your dreams and tore them apart.
He never comes home And youre always alone And your kids hear you cryin down the hall Alarm clock starts ringin Who could that be singin Its me baby, with your wake up call!
How do you like me now? How do you like me now, Now that I'm on my way? Do you still think I'm crazy Standin here today? I couldnt make you love me But I always dreamed about living in your radio How do you like me now?
Tell me baby... I will preach on...
Husband Soon to be Doctor Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey Husband, Send this Blake Shelton song to her and send Blake Shelton to me!
"Don't Make Me"
Girl when I look at you You look through me Like I'm not even there I'm trying not to give up To be strong but I'm afraid to say I'm scared I can't find the place your heart is hiding & I'm no quitter but I'm tired of fighting
Baby I love you Don't wanna lose you Don't make me let you go Took such a long time For me to find you
Don't make me let you go Baby I'm begging please & I'm down here on my knees I don't wanna have to set you free Don't make me
What if when I'm long gone It dawns on you You just might want me back Let me make myself clear If I leave here Its done I'm gone that's that You carry my love around Like it's a heavy burden Well I'm about to take it back Are you sure its worth it
Baby I love you Don't wanna lose you Don't make me let you go Took such a long time For me to find you Don't make me let you go Baby I'm begging please & I'm down here on my knees I don't wanna have to set you free Don't make me
Baby I'm begging please & I'm down here on my knees I don't wanna have to set you free Don't make me Don't make me Stop loving you Stop needing you
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Did you get a response to your letter Soon to be Dr. Love?
Sue
Nah nothing yet but..............She has not withdrawn.... In fact today was a new first, when I got home from work it was really cold so I made a pot of coffee, (I just started drinking it again). Anyway she does not like coffee. While the coffee pot did its thing I sat down in my chair and my dog jumped up on my lap (looking for warmth) and lay down. Then.... are you ready for this???? W came into the room and ASKED ME if I wanted a cup of coffee. I said sure she asked how I liked it and I told her two sugers...She made it and brought it to ME..... Then she took son shopping and was gone the rest of the day.
Don't know what to make of it but I really don't care... I’m on cruse control for 49 more days then it's VEGAS and maybe yoyo will meet me there....
Husband (Dr LOVE)
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
