is he too young for MLC?

[mrarow]

I think you are doing very well!! Much beter them some of us.....Hang in there and do what feels right. I am no expert but i think you are on the right track.

[WAS32]

Why if H wants this M over does he keep contacting me? I wake up to texts from him wanting to know how I am. How are the kids and stuff and I go to bed at night with texts from him. Silly things like is it okay to freeze hot pizza? Sometimes in the middle of the night I get stuff from him too. I am polite and answer sometimes but if I don't he will phone the house to get my attention that he sent me a text. (We only ever talk on cells) What should I be doing? Should I keep talking to him or should I stop this? I just don't know! HELP!

[mrarow]

I think you should repost your thread in the for newcomers area and start a thread there. I think you may get more response. I don't want to give you any bad advice myself and seem to be the only one responding here. I am having enough troubles on my own, LOL. Started a new Thread myself overthere today as i hit the big 100 posts. It is nice to vent and document my relationship problems on here because you can go back and read what changes are happening and if my actions are helping or not. I think in your case here, if you have needs and think he will hear and listen to you, I would tell him how you feel about the communication issues you are having. Nothing more personal than talking face to face. No expert JMHO

[WAS32]

Well maybe you are right mrarow. There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of advice here. maybe in newcomers. I did post there a while ago but I was hoping for advice from people a little more into this. Someone with some real insight. I am having a hard time and maybe my sitch doesn't look as bad as everyone elses but I still am seperated. he lives an hour away and that is hard. I want him here with me. My friends tell me to leave him and let it go in a very negative way but I don't want too. I want to figure out how to make this M work properly. I am trying and I am working on myself. I know this won't come easy.

[WAS32]

Okay so I have had a very strange 24hrs with H. I got a text from him yesterday morning wanting to know what I was doing. I was asleep at the time and a little hung over from the night before. Anyways, he started telling me that he really misses his family and he misses me sooooo much and he needs to see me. he told me that he wants to come home and has been thinking about it for awhile. I am very scared right now. I don't think I should be taking this at face value because I know that it could all change tomorrow. But i really want to believe him. When he left here today it was sad. It's the first time I have seen him have a hard time walking out the door and he didn't even pick a fight with me so he had a reason to leave. He gave me a kiss and left.

Tomorrow is new years and he didn't make any plans with me and I did not push for any either. I will take this one day at a time and see where it goes. I just don't know where I stand right now with him. We talked about moving to Australia again. It has been something that we had been talking about before. (my mommy lives there) He seems to really want to do that. Not sure if that is one of his ways of running again or if he really wants it. There are a whole lot of things that we have to work on and I hope we can get there.

[LooseThread]

Yay come to Oz!!

Come to West Oz!!

[WAS32]

My mommy lives about 20 mins outside of Townsville. I think if we were to move it would be near her. But who knows what will happen. Today he is a little stand offish with me. probably has new years plans that I am not included in. It makes me sad but I know there is nothing I can do. Act as if it doesn't matter if we are together tonight. I think it is gonna be a long sad night for me. I hope I can wake up happy tomorrow.

[Dom R]

Okay so I have had a very strange 24hrs with H. I got a text from him yesterday morning wanting to know what I was doing. .... he told me that he wants to come home and has been thinking about it for awhile.
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Congrats, Was.

you complained about not getting much advice on this forum... but sounds like you dont need much

sounds to me like you have a great mix of hope, blended with prudent caution. Hang in there...

[WAS32]

There is definate reason to have caution here. Like I said earlier, just cuz he feels this way today it doesn't mean he will feel that way tomorrow. I figure if he was serious about moving back he would be with me tonight. We had a short convo texting earlier. He said he didn't know what he was doing tonight and was in a weird/down mood. So I told him I had a bottle of champange if he was interested. I got a "I don't know" from him. He told me tonight he doesn't know if he will ever be happy. I told him that he can and has been happy and that it was going to take baby steps for him to get there again. He asked me when I ever thought he was happy. I told him a few things and he sent me a "sincere thanks". That's the last I heard from him.

I am really sad tonight without him. I did not let him know that or let him know if I was doing anything at all tonight. I wanted him to be here because he wanted to. Not out of guilt.

And Dom, of course I need advise from this forum or I wouldn't be here. He hasn't moved home and even when or if he does it's going to be a long road. Aren't we here so we ccan help others stay on the right track?

[WAS32]

So I am going a little dark today. With him not spending new years with me I don't know if he really wants to be with me or if I am his filler when he is sad. So I got a text from him at midnight. Just a happy new year and then again at 4 am and again at 12:30 and 1 and 2:30 and at 3. He wants to know what I am doing and why I am not talking to him. Right now I think that i have been very giving and understanding of what he is going through. But I think that I am starting to hhurt myself in the process. I don't think that DBing means to cause yourself great pain. And that is how I am feeling. A lot of pain. he needs to figure out if he wants to be with me. Not this back and forth stuff just so he can get back in the house for a few days and then walk out on me again. It's hurting to much right now.

So I am GAL and going to my friends for a fondue party tonight and going to leave my cell phone at home. That way he can't ruin my evening. It should be fun.