If it helps, i'm alcoholic also and went through the parenting classes and was forced to random ua's. These are the types of things that may force some change.
You can't tell an alcoholic anything it must be figured out internally, sorry.
Hang in there and feel no guilt!
My prayers are with...
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..