I don't have any great advice, but it seems like she is the one that has a lot to put on the table. You need to sit back and do a lot of listening and see what happens. I wouln't tell her that you do want the divorce when you really don't, but just say you have been given no choice by her.
Me - 34 W - 33 S - 5 D - 4 M - 14 years Bomb 1 Dec 06 Bomb 2 Aug 07 Separated - Aug 07 WAW Renting own place - Dec 07