Hi, ba... She called again a few minutes ago. This time on purpose. She talked to the two younger kids about their Christmas presents (at least from the end I could hear). Then she talked to me for a couple minutes. I told her that her gift choices had been a hit, and she said she'd had fun doing the shopping. Talked a little bit about some of the stuff going on up there, they talked themselves into a lab for a blood draw for her brother, two minutes before they closed (actually they already had) for lunch. It sounded like they were on the edge of getting upset, but stayed just nice enough to get in.
You know, your idea of not being where he 'expects' you to be sometime might not be a bad one at all. I get the feeling he thinks he is controlling what's going on, and that you will just be there, if he wants, when he wants, no matter what. I think disabusing him of that notion would be smart.
I think you are right about the kids. There is less tension. And I'm less strict, though I do think I get to the same place in the end. We've just got different means. And of course, mine are wrong!
Science fair projects... S13 is trying to show that the music you are listening to effects exercise by measuring the time it takes to walk around the block listening to different music. I think I am going to steer S10 into doing something with erosion or weathering. I'm an engineer, I like science. I can't stand science fair projects!
New Year's Eve? When's that? I imagine that one or both of the older boys will be out. Probably doing things I don't want to know about with people I don't know! A story that I haven't told anywhere. Earlier this fall, I got in my car, and was driving to work. I flipped the sun visor down to find a condom wrapper! They've both used the car at times, so I have o idea. Or, since the car was relatively new to me, maybe I hadn't flipped it down before (Though I really don't think so). I guess the good thing was that there was a condom wrapper, huh? What happened to my babies? The younger two and I will probably hang out, have ice cream and brownies, play video games, and make a mess of the house with poppers at midnight! Come on down!
It's a PS2 game, the controllers are sort of guitars, but with buttons, and you try to match the pattern on the screen. So, it is pretty much a time sink.
All computer games are time sinks, unless you can tie it in with family.
How are the home improvements coming? If you say I'll do them tomorrow...man do them today, reward yourself with a post here on the board after you get some things done.
That story did you tell your W about it?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
The good thing about Guitar Hero is that we got two guitars, so we've been playing with each other a lot. S10 is remarkably good. Embarrasses me, actually!
House has been getting better every day. The biggest remaining obstacle, other than finding the %^#$%& anklet is the science fair projects. But, we'll get those done.
Haven't told W that story. I know she's talked to both about being responsible (as have I), and it seems to me that the wrapper is at least an indication of that. I'm not sure that accidentally not finding a trash can should make it public knowledge, so I've kept it to myself. And the remote possibility that it was there before, and wasn't them at all.
Kids do grow up too fast! I think I'd die if I'd of found that in my car....my S is not very social (he's a mechanical engineering major (senior year) and so he socializes with people who fool around with engines for fun and doesn't date much.....my D18 is very social...worries me to death...she's adorable and naive...has only had two boyfriends but to my knowledge nothing serious...?
In my opinion, I wouldn't share the info with your W....she'd probably flip out.....that's what I would've done! Sometimes secrets are better kept...you know?
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
I see your point though. I will have to think about his. On the one hand, it feels like betraying a confidence, but then again, they don't even know there was a confidence to betray....
The other problem is that I have absolutely no idea which one it was. I can't even really make a good guess!
Kids do grow up too fast! I think I'd die if I'd of found that in my car....my S is not very social (he's a mechanical engineering major (senior year) and so he socializes with people who fool around with engines for fun and doesn't date much.....my D18 is very social...worries me to death...she's adorable and naive...has only had two boyfriends but to my knowledge nothing serious...?
In my opinion, I wouldn't share the info with your W....she'd probably flip out.....that's what I would've done! Sometimes secrets are better kept...you know?
BA
I was pretty surprised, because I'm not aware of any current girlfriends. A year ago, I know about them.
I understand completely....my daughter thinks she has everything under control....we really had to talk to her before she left for school to make her understand that someone could slip something to her in a drink and she'd be toast....she's not a party girl so she hasn't run into any uncomfortable situations yet and I think we got it into her head to pay attention to what's going on around her.....I hope!
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
It's good your wife called again...at least you are keeping a connection going even if it is strained at times...maybe she's missing you and the boys some? Maybe feeling guilty about not being home?
I'm glad you're enjoying your time with the boys and not missing her too much right now...the break will be good for you and your emotions!
Keep the faith!
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
She thinks she has everything under control..... 'Til that cute guy with the sweet talk, and the smile..... She sounds smart though (gets it from her mom, I'll bet), so hopefully she'll be smart!
