...He said he's really missing our family and our kids, but he's not hopeful about us. But then he started talking "ifs" and what we would do differently. He was bargaining with me, negotiating...
He's sniffing the bait. You need to pull it away from him.
Just like H4C said, you need to demonstrate to him that your happiness is not contingent upon his love and acceptance of you. Because it's not!!!
Show him that you have moved on. I know, I know, it's completely counterintuitive, but it's the only way to go from here. You need to show him that you do not need him at all. Because the more you need him, the more he will pull away.
I would love to write more, but my wife just got home, and I am headed out. Got things to do...
