Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Hurtin4certain]

Mike.. that sucks man. In your case, I would encourage her to move out. Its a whole different ballgame when you are separated physically. It does many things:

1. You wont have to watch and continually be hurt by her bs.
2. She will realize that the world is a cold, cruel place to be all alone (even if she does have OM).
3. This will give you the much needed break to work on yourself and detach, I cant begin to tell you how much easier it is when you're separated.

You will feel intense pain when she leaves and always wonder what she is doing. But, after a while, you will feel a calm come over you. You will realize that you can live without her.

Trust me man... If I can survive a separation, you can. I thought I was going to die and I even contemplated ending my life. Im so glad that I stuck it out because I feel like Ive grown so much as a person.

She needs a chance to miss you and the kids, this might be the only way for her to feel that loneliness. No more R talks, start moving on. The sooner you do that, the better the chances of her coming back.

In my case it took about 8 months for my W to see the light. I had moved on and even had a girlfriend (I dont recommend that). I truly let her go. Then one day, out of the blue, she called me. She told me she filed a petition to stop our divorce and that if I wanted it, I would have to file myself. Then she started calling me, little by little she really opened up and showed me how much she had missed me.

Praying for you bro. You can do this, I know you can.