Miss Ic - I know I'm kinda late with weighing in here, but I'd like to say this: I would have been THRILLED if my H's reaction to his infidelity had been ANYTHING like ICs. Honestly. My H screwed up twice in our marriage. Both times he was depressed, and a woman set her sights on him. If my H had just succumbed, and then been overcome with guilt and a determination to fight for our marriage - that would have been SO sweet! Instead, he had to convince himself he was "in love" to justify his actions, and put us both through several months of BS before he woke up to what he was doing.
I'm not saying IC didn't mess up - he did. He put himself in a situation where such a thing could happen. Marriage should mean you don't PUT yourself in those "near occasions of sin" IMHO.
BUT - given that he DID make that all-too-human mistake, I just want to point out that his behavior following it was almost everything you could hope for from him. Any one of us might be susceptible in the right circumstances to a ONS; it takes guts to slap yourself after and commit to working on your marriage. I admire that. I wish my H had more of that.
