I can almost see your story playing out like mine has. My W has been acting basically the same way, except when I found out about her new BF a few months after S, she began to flaunt it around her family. They are very happy that she is happy again - they say they thought I was a good provider but not a good friend to W and to just leave her alone for good. The calls to my wife from BF now come to a new cell phone she didn't tell me about until last week so when I thought things were settling down, they were just going offline without my knowledge. There is a whole life she leads without me and our 2 kids (S16,D14) and its tough to keep smiling all the time after 20 years of marriage. I miss W so much my heart feels like its going to burst. She has no responsibilities and I don't think she ever will again. My advice is pray. Then cry. And then pray some more. Repeat as necessary. God will help protect you and your child from harm and He loves you both. But you may have to show unconditional love to someone who doesn't deserve it anymore. Its so hard to keep the faith when it hurts to breathe. Talk to God like a friend and tell him what hurts. I did and it didn't solve anything for me but I am feeling far stronger than I have in years. Your H may be acting like a spoiled child and God will deal with him according to His plans, but you can't ask H to be someone he's not. Its not up to you to dictate that. God wants you to be happy. So, maybe like me, you need to think less about how to get your spouse back and more about how to live my life to the fullest. Your H may never be the same again and my W never will either. But we can both be happy and protect our kids with all our strength. H will see your strength and he will be amazed you can do it without him. I hate the pain and the crying - I feel so out of control. But when I pray, I feel Him giving me hope that regardless of what happens, I will be strong and loved and am a great person even if I have no S anymore. Good luck - I'll pray for you too Stacy22.
