Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[SirPrizeMe]

I'm hanging in there, thanks for all the support you all. LWB, Ann, Nutfarmer, NH - thanks. People like you are really helpful at this time. Oh, thank you.

Self applied 2x4 : I gotta stop with the roller coaster stuff. Xmas morning was GREAT! Really great. I opened presents with my kids, and W watched me! how great is that! She kissed me! Seriously, if I step back, it was a GREAT DAY for my marriage. Three weeks ago, if I had written down my realistic goals for the day, the actual day exceeded all of them. Wooohooooo!!

Then I talk to the OM's wife and I learn they are still in contact and I torture myself over it. WTF!??! Why should I? Why should anything that is happening out of my control, bother me? Why should I let this information detract from a GREAT GREAT Day?

I am going to go my last idea, send a short email - "It was a great gift for me, to spend time all together with you and the kids on Christmas, it meant a lot to me. thanks for making that happen!"

In fact, I should be ecstatic that OM is "cheating" on my W. True colors. This is super. I hope it helps her to see him for what he is, and see me for what I am.

I gotta keep myself calm. ...Remain focused on the goal!

ok, I'm off to have a GREAT DAY!