Karen1 thing is that nothing feels more abnormal than having an H who isn't interested in sex. Possibilities like affairs, homosexuality, low testosterone, internet porn addiction and the like seem more possible than an H who simply isn't interested.
You ladies are missing one very important point. Lots of men become overly involved with work, acquiring new toys/things, and how to pay for things.
I can remember times in my life where I only had a certain amount of time to get a job done, that sex was something I could put off because my W-BB didn't like quickies and what she wanted took several hours.
Sometimes if I set aside the several hours, she was too tired to have sex or something came up and she wasn't interested in sex as much as what just popped up on her radar screen.
I have talked to several guys that basically put too much time into work. I think work issues are a more common problem than OW, porn, or what some women see as no sex drive from their H.
I worked jobs where we got paid for what we produced or repaired. There was a lot of competition at work. If I didn’t deliver in a certain amount of time, the next job would go to another person. Believe me, some jobs will suck the life out of a guy and diminish his reasoning abilities. He thinks success at work is one of the main things he has to do or he isn’t a man.
In some business’s guys that make excuses for not getting the job done on time and done right are viewed as very wimpy at work.
Now, I never let too much time go by between sexual encounters, but I did spend more time working on things around the house (part time jobs done at home) than BB liked. She felt I didn’t pay enough attention to her at the time of the day she wanted the attention.
I felt I had to get the work done, then play. By the time my playtime was about to start, she was ready to go to sleep.
Karen1, your situation is different. I was just explaining why work interferes with sex and sometimes the timing is off.
