You're not being picky, but someone posted that we should quit reacting to everything he does or doesn't say and do. You can't control the fact that he didn't text you again. Did you text him back after the hotel comment? Just curious. Hopefully, some of the more experienced DB'ers can answer your question about pushing him away and keeping him at a distance. I have no idea.
Hope you feel better.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him