Hey - thanks for the reminder that I am not a wall flower in every scenario. Oddly I have had more approaches since my little man was born from men of every shape, size and age then I can remember in a while. Forty is pretty cool. I don't know what I am signaling but I DO know how to keep myself out of trouble. Truth be told the scenario you describe could just happen if I was having a particularly bad day. Bring home a nice piece o' azz, leave him with the kiddos and run away.....................
Yeah -I'm venting on my thread and I will soon stop. I am certainly part of the problem as long as I keep that crap up. However, I do believe wholeheartedly that I will never know how I contribute to the problem as long as H refuses to see that there is one. I will order Michelle's book and see if there are new insights there.
In the meantime by little spoon banging man is the light of my life. He just learned to clap, he loves me with an unparalleled adoration. Nothing is more adorable. Since the competition arrived my other kids are fascinated by me too. Funny how that works. You would think H would be similarly motivated by the competition from strangers that he frequently points out. Instead he seems to take a "So what, she's hot and she has her chastity belt firmly fastened so there is no problem kind of stance."
You are right on the AOS with men unless they are done just to please themselves. Foot rubs because they relax you are a-ok as are cleaning up a woman's car or running the vacuum. These helpful behaviors do increase your attractiveness if you are still the kind of guy who might run the vacuum and then say, "Hey the carpet is clean - wanna get some rug burns with me?"
