Well, she's not going to get everything she wants, that's just not realistic. She'll realize that in time, and that might work in your favor.

If she's not pushing hard on the divorce, maybe it's more of a statement than an action. I have heard of a few on this board who only started to see real hope and reconsidering AFTER the papers were filed. I'd like to think that's where you are...

Me:37
WAW:35
M:10
T:15
Ds:9, 5
She Dropped Bomb:9/02/07
Both still at home