Oh, and one other thing...I know WAW will change her tune one day. It might be a very long time from now...but that is ok...it does not matter how hard she tries, I cannot feel anything but love for her. I miss her and I know time will cure all. She will see my changes, my happiness, and 5D's love for her Daddy and that will be the day...
Until that day...GL2UALL...amazing I have anything to post...Don't expect to communicate with WAW for quite awhile during this darkness.
Clear I have got to listen better, because it took me two days after x-mas eve conversation to realize, WAW said a little bit more than I posted on page 5...
she said something to the effect of I do not understand how you did not hear or see any of the things I(WAW) tried to do or wanted to do(referring to before the bomb) and am really surprised you were so whiny and shocked when it(separation) happened.
I find it really interesting she brought up the past. No telling why, maybe she is working through her guilt...maybe she is reconsidering...maybe the moon is really made of cheese...
I think I am about to get served fault papers...she called the justice court, which is for traffic tickets, but called lawyer prior...Veiled threat is to get served fault, even though she has no case and her attorney knows it. Sure wish I knew what to do...do I call to ask to meet and talk about stuff or just wait.
I'm right there with you buddy. My feelings are almost exactly the same about my WAW (good and bad), but I think we have to stick it through as long as we possibly can.
I hope they come around soon. Such a shame that kids are in the middle.
Me:37 WAW:35 M:10 T:15 Ds:9, 5 She Dropped Bomb:9/02/07 Both still at home
Still don't know what to do...Either I call her and ask if we are going to meet to talk to work on D papers, which she said we would do, or do nothing and wait for another bomb.
Well, in my state, she cannot file no-fault and she has no case for fault. So, she can either lie and file fault or work with me on no-fault as she said she would do...So, I could very easily call just to find that out. She clearly is calling to see if I am doing anything. If I contact lawyer, then I will have to get retainer fee, etc...back in that boat. I hate this...I want none of this crap...I want to stay dark without a bomb hitting but I just don't see that happening. I think it might be best for me to call and bring it up. Lack of knowing what will happen in the coming days, weeks, months will eat me up. Hard to ignore the destruction of your family.
I feel the exact same way. I'm going to avoid D talk like the plague though. Part of the reason is to show her that's not an option for me and that I'll never give up on the family. That might just give her more power over me, but I don't want to play games here.
It does and will eat you up, but we can get through this. PMA and GAL is great but the problem IS still there, and low moments will come. Stick it out, stay strong, and focus on the ultimate goal and how amazing it will be.
Me:37 WAW:35 M:10 T:15 Ds:9, 5 She Dropped Bomb:9/02/07 Both still at home
Ignoring her and the D talk will be more of the same. I could very easily contact her to meet. Then I could find out her plan. She said she would meet to talk three weeks ago. I could tell her I could work on things by myself, with her, or with my attorney. Could even tell her what I thought about the whole mess. Just quitting is crap. Maybe she is having an EA. Maybe she is just playing games. Her grandmother, the person she admires most, would tell her to stop what she is doing and try to work on things. Obviously she doesn't want to hear it.
Still find it odd she would mention her efforts to work on things prior to the bomb and my shock when she told me to leave three months ago when we talked on x-mas eve. Do not know what to think about it.
