I would suggest that rather than ask your wife if you can come back - tell her. Say, I am coming back on X date(s) to see my kids. Whether or not your R works with her, you have a *responsiblity* to be in the lives of your children. And then when you come back - focus on the kids. They need their Dad. My H grew up without one and he would have loved it if his Dad and Mom could have put aside their differences so he could have a R with his father. You are important to them and you MUST MUST MUST have a presence in their lives. It's not up to her whether or not you have a presence in their lives, it's up to YOU.
Don't ask her what you should do - just DO the RIGHT thing.
Edited to say this: Your kids must miss you as much as you miss them. If you set the dates now it will give them something to look forward to also. This may help them cope with the "loss" of their dad.
Last edited by ediemarie; 12/28/0703:07 PM.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
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