Yeah its pretty sick isnt it. My wife was so racked with guilt after this last affair as soon as I cornered her to discuss she would run to the bathroom to puke. Did that for a couple of weeks. I guess its easier for them to just start speaking in this language of leaving.
Me: 37, engineer, former Marine Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3 2 Dogs Seperated since Jun07
Your comment above said..........after this last affair. Are you an unfortunate member of the MAC (Multiple Affair Club)? There are a few of us on here.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
in 2000 found out about the first affair, was told it was an EA and that the relationship was "never cosummated", i left and we seperated for 1 yr. During that time she admitted to an earlier affair in 98 (while she was pregnant with 2nd daughter!). 2001 she admits to "loving" another man back home, says nothing happened she was trying to help him through his oycontin addiction. Fast foward to now, she gets caught in a full blown affair with the same guy, been ongoing for 5 years she says, full PA. She leaves this time. Over the past 4 years she also has had 3 abortions and there was also a "rape", she says someone "slipped a roofie in my drink and I woke up naked under bush outside the bar". So yeah, multiple affairs, AND she is dignosed with BipolarII, ADD and other therapists have mentioned possible borderline/historinic personality disorder issues but they couldnt confirm diagnosis. She is currently taking Seroquel, Klonipin, and Effexor, all dr prescribed. I am currently in LRT, shes "seeing" an old friend at the moment, someone who she had a relationship with when she was 16. Hes fresh out of jail and on parole for cocaine dist. Last time I saw her (a little over 2 months) she showed me her newly shaved stuff, and let me know she just bought a 3ft ball python. Shes a real winner, but still love her to death and hope someday she can be healthy and come back, I guess the same things eveyone hopes for here.
Me: 37, engineer, former Marine Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3 2 Dogs Seperated since Jun07
in 2000 found out about the first affair, was told it was an EA and that the relationship was "never cosummated", i left and we seperated for 1 yr. During that time she admitted to an earlier affair in 98 (while she was pregnant with 2nd daughter!). 2001 she admits to "loving" another man back home, says nothing happened she was trying to help him through his oycontin addiction. Fast foward to now, she gets caught in a full blown affair with the same guy, been ongoing for 5 years she says, full PA. She leaves this time. Over the past 4 years she also has had 3 abortions and there was also a "rape", she says someone "slipped a roofie in my drink and I woke up naked under bush outside the bar". So yeah, multiple affairs, AND she is dignosed with BipolarII, ADD and other therapists have mentioned possible borderline/histrionic personality disorder issues but they couldnt confirm diagnosis. She is currently taking Seroquel, Klonipin, and Effexor, all dr prescribed. I am currently in LRT, shes "seeing" an old friend at the moment, someone who she had a relationship with when she was 16. Hes fresh out of jail and on parole for cocaine dist. Last time I saw her (a little over 2 months) she showed me her newly shaved stuff, and let me know she just bought a 3ft ball python. Shes a real winner, but still love her to death and hope someday she can be healthy and come back, I guess the same things eveyone hopes for here.
Me: 37, engineer, former Marine Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3 2 Dogs Seperated since Jun07
Well, i dont have any control over that, judge decided on 50/50 cust on temp basis. Hell my STBX got a snake and has shown me pics of the snake around my 3 yr olds' neck to prove to me its NOT dangerous. I had to hold my tongue because I dont want those pictures erased on her phone, although I really wanted to drop her to the ground. I am in a constant stuggle to balance the safety of my kids with trying to build a case against her, and all I really want is for her to wake up, wise up and come back.
Me: 37, engineer, former Marine Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3 2 Dogs Seperated since Jun07
Hell my STBX got a snake and has shown me pics of the snake around my 3 yr olds' neck to prove to me its NOT dangerous.
Hope I don't offend, but that is just WRONG. It's a wild animal with wild animal instincts for goodnes sake. I've just heard of too many unfortunate incidents with snakes that it would scare me. I'd do what I could to see that she has to get rid of it. Thank God my H hates snakes as much as I do.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I know its wrong, and again I have to strike a balance every day with anger and trying not to jeapordizing my case to protect my kids and myself. All this while I am trying to DB as well, its quite a challenge.
Me: 37, engineer, former Marine Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3 2 Dogs Seperated since Jun07
