Yes it is a step in the right direction. We will see how it goes. I plan to continue with everything I had in mind to do to set myself on the road to dissolving this M. I am not just letting him buy time again. This is my time and the kids' time we are talking about and just saying "I'll give up drinking" is not the same as actually giving up drinking. I plan to continue attending al-anon. I plan to get myself in to teacher training so I can work term-time only. I plan to contact a lawyer and decided exactly what I am going to need to do financially etc.
Lil, I hear what you are saying about not reminding him. All I will say to him, I think, is to remind him that we promised we'd get through Christmas for the sake of the kids, grandparents etc (this was when we were talking about separating). Now Christmas is over we have to do what we're going to do. If he then says "but I've said I'm giving up drinking". I will say "words are words and actions are actions".
Happy New Year
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
