But, how can one claim that you emotionally abused them and hurt them enough to make them want to divorce you, but still want to be friends? What the hell?
It's called guilt.
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Whenever I have a small, positive interaction with W is bouys my mood for a good couple hours. Then I dip, or crash.
Don't let these interactions be what makes you happy. Find happiness within yourself, and these pleasant interactions with W will be icing on the cake -- not the cake itself.
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When, if ever, is it time to bring up R-talk again?
When/if you feel the time is right. I personally don't think you should bring it up if she hasn't filed yet. Just be happy, cool, confident, calm, collected, attractive, etc, when around her. If/when she's ready, she'll let you know. Doing anything now will most likely severe the closeness you are gaining of late. Just be her friend, show her your changes (and make sure you are being consistent with them), and let her take the lead on R talk. If she files for D, don't fight it -- this will likely only make her dig her heels in more. Give it to her, but that might also be a good time to bring up the R talk. I wouldn't before that, though. Ride the wave until then -- or until you are willing to throw in the towel after one last shot.
