Relational Equality vs, Relational Equivalency

[Stigmata]

Sorry for the two extreems but, I do need to ask for more in a confident manner.

Never got much from other people, Almost always did the AOS thing to feel like I fit in. Yup, we create our own problems sometimes and also have answers.

Well I have noticed an overall increased confidence from you for what it's worth. Cut way down on your apologies for the quality of your posts. Personally, I've learned to always hold in high regard the fine opinions of others with a lot more life experience and IMO your posts never lacked quality.

I too was caught in the AOS trap ... mainly because I am almost zero maintenance. I want something to eat I cook it. Want something from ffrig. I go get it. Gave out about 1,000 foot rubs never asked for a single one in return; never occurred to me. And I didn't do it for any rewards; it actually relaxed me.

But now I say to Ms: Forget all the AOSs. The more you do the more the AOS (and you) are taken for grantedd. The only thing that matters are the swirling "feelings" in your F and how those feelings place your role/longevity to her in the R. And one things for sure: resentment over her not appreciating our AOS is felt by her on some level and her attraction feelings drop from that vibe alone (usually because we're not aware we're primarily giving off some really pissy body language).

In the last 3 years, I have gotten better at asking and a "NO" I don't take as personal as I used to.

Yeah, you didn't need my unsolicited words about your R that I made in my last post. I find that annoying about myself, frankly.
Good to hear about not taking "no" personally. That's one of the hardest hurdles we guys have to cross: the ability to say and hear the word "no" without worrying about the outcome and how miserable our Fs might try and make our lives once "no" is uttered.

-Stigmata-