He's a drunk AmyC. All the kings horses can't put HIM back together, you're right about that. He's a drunk, he's an abuser, and he's in denial about the whole thing. He will attack you, judge you, criticize you, do anything he can to intimidate you into continuing to enable his lousy behaivior.
You don't need someone like that in your life AmyC. You can say all you want about how YOU destroyed your M, but that man's drinking is destroying lives. His drinking is the most destructive force you have faced. It is evil.
I encourage you to find Alanon. It won't cost you a dime, but you will learn how to deal with addicts. It's okay to continue to love(1C:13) him, but it's not okay to keep hoping he'll sober up. You are absolutely on the right track so don't go cracking up. You're in a battle here. You're gonna get your ass kicked around some, but this is life and death here. So I'm behind you all the way. You don't have to be subject to his drunken crap anymore.
He'll blame you for his drinking, his bad health, his work, his parents, his kids, whatever. He'll lie, cheat, and steal, anything but give up his booze.
You've fought long and hard AmyC, but your man is not playing here. Love him, but do not enable him anymore. If your M works out then hurahhhh!!! If not, then YOU are free to move forward with YOUR life.
Be honest with your son. You know the real reason why your M isn't working. It's not what you did, it's what your H is doing now. He's an addict, a drunk. Don't hide that from your kid's. It's a valuable lesson they can learn. But don't do it in spite, inform them from a loving heart, not a vindictive heart.
My prayers are with you. Next year will be better.
Love,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
COG said it better than I can, or did Amt, but I think your marriage would have been restored months ago if not for the alcohol. It's not what you did anymore. If that was it, he would have pushed to end it well before now. What you are doing now is as much for him, as anyone. Hang in there.
Of course she thinks you're the enemy.... sorry , but so what! She is 12 and it ain't always a democracy.... Mother does know best. Jerk a knot in her little a$$ whether she likes it or not. This is for her own good and you know it!
If all hell breaks loose... well then you'll just be too damn busy to fall apart then won'tcha! Sorry to sound harsh girl.... but you need to hear things straight right now rather than sugarcoated.
((((( Amy )))) .... we're all here for you.... scream yell bitch and holler.... we will support you!
~lost
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
HOLY MOLY GIRL! You are most definitely in my prayers. I have faith in you. It's for your kids - we are strong when it comes to our children. Love ya!!!!!!
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Don't know what to say....I'm sad on the one hand...and glad that you understand what you HAVE to do.
Praise God for your strength in this too!
You know we (your friends here) will be with you all the way!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
