My husband and I have been separated for three weeks. I asked him to leave for several reasons all of which were legit. He doesn't work, was injured on the job before we met and has been trying to get disability, but hasn't been able to. He smokes pot and I caught him looking at porn (he claims that he only clicked on something that was sent to him on Yahoo email). I have a 16 year old daughter who lives with us (I also have two other children who don't). So I told him to leave. The whole thing was very calm, no yelling nothing.
In the meantime, I have looked at my life and seen that while what he is doing isn't ok, I wasn't putting anything into the marriage. I ate dinner with him at night (dinner that he cooked) and we slept in the same bed. That was it. I either spent time with my daughter, on the computer, reading, doing school work (I'm in grad school) etc. Our relationship was not always like this. We use to have fun together, went places, did things, talked etc. I did the same thing in my first marriage.
I do not doubt that my husband loves, me. I never have doubted it. And I love him. We started talking to each other again a week ago and we have said more to each other in a week than we have in the last six months. So what do you guys think? Am I crazy to try to save this?
