Don't let your H be a cake eater. Let him miss you and see what he may possibly lose. [/quote]

How do I not let him be a cake eater. Give me examples of how to avoid this if you could. What is it that enables them to be cake eaters?

Me:45
H: 45
M: 14 yrs
T: 16 yrs
D's: 7/11
Bomb: June '07
Moved out: Sept.'07