That's quite a story!! I'm so sorry you and your kids are going through all this.
This has nothing to do with your story... but I noticed you're from Sacramento. Me too! It's funny, I've been on here over a year and hadn't run across anyone local, and now know of several people in the area. The posters MichelleLT and 789 are from this area, too. I'll be working on putting together a Northern CA get together in January - I'll post details in the Just for Fun forum, but it'd be great if you're intersted in going!
In case you'd like to email me - here's my email address (take out the spaces/line breaks, I do it to "hide" from Google):
nikki b at surewest .net
Hope we can be of help to you once you get to the point of needing specific advice.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
