Go back and read many of the comments you made to me and maybe that would be a good start. You kept pushing me to understand that my W wanted a husband first. Once I got that through my head I could see what she has been asking for all of these years and I just went and did it. I have been doing those things now for 2 months or so every chance that I get and it has become habit.
It started with little things that would take some stress and anxiety off of her during this trying time. Then it grew from there. Believe me there were times when I was showing her how special she is to me that I was thinking I was crazy b/c she wanted another relationship and I was so hurt by all of this. But, I could see in her face that she appreciated my efforts.
Do the same Dom, don't hide from the pain of her actions, use that as a motivator to continue to do those things you hint about. Consistently, I can tell you that has been one of the keys for me thus far is that I don't miss no matter what is going on.
I had to customize this approach for me and my sitch, like you, but be malleable to make sure that you find the right groove!
Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship
S7 S4
M: 7yrs Bomb: 10/19 Seperated: 10/24
The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce
