Hound's oddessy #2

[houndfan]

Sorry for the delay in posts all, with Christmas and everything else I have purposely stayed away from the computer, but now that I am back at work with a little time I will update....

When we last followed our intrepid hero he was planning a move back home for a number of reasons. The place he was staying would be unavailable for the holiday's, he wanted to be near the little heros and work on his marriage, and it was the right thing to do. So he moved home.

At first our hero unpacked very little from his suitcase as to insure that there were no grand assumptions made on his part, but slowly he began to engrain himself back into the home and family. Through his hard work and diligent DB'ing our hero has really turned a new leaf and has gotten many many compliments from his wife about his participation around the house. As the Christmas holiday approached she made several comments about how easy it has been this year with all of the extra help!!!

So, our hero pressed on and as he would do laundry, rather than putting his stuff back in the suitcase his cape and skin-tight blue suits would be hung on his side of the closet or placed in the dresser, but he never said anything about it, nor was it every brought up by the wife. In addition, our hero continued in his new ways of getting up a little earlier to finish off some dishes, laundry, whatever needed to be completed. When coming home from a day of crimefighting our hero would also make sure that there was some time to spend dedicated to the little heros, the misses, and even some little chores.

Well, during this time our hero and his mate continued to attend MC to work on their individual skills and there have been some breakthroughs for each. In addition, they have continued to work through the exercises in Gottman's book again building some additional skills.

Life in the supers house has been very very different, it is remarkable the behavior change from each of our heros. In fact, there have been a number of moments in the last 7 days that when they happened a few months ago would turn into an all our verbal assualt by one of the two. But now, there is a completely different communication dynamic between our heros. There is a lot of empathy for each other and there have been some serious breakthroughs.

While all seems ok in our world, there are some challenges. For one, Mrs. Hero is still uncertain sometimes of her "wants" and has at times pushed our Hound hero away in a very loving way though. There have been nights were she wasn't feeling "cuddly" and would simply ask the Hound to sit on another couch or chair in the living room. She has also been very reluctant to have anykind of PDA. Additionally, she is still certain that we are not "back together", we are just trying to figure things out. She also refuses to wear her ring or confirm that she is married publically. To which our hero has begun to call her his domestic partner to much giggling from the misses.

But, the intimacy has increased, she has even admitted that she loves me so much more when I am not a jerk and has exclaimed that we have been more physical in the last two weeks than we have in the last 6 months because she is so attracted to this nice kind man whom has invaded my body.

So our hero is still being yo-yo'd some, but the best news of all is that the Hound has been asked to stay at the house from now on with some rules of course, but nothing that he is not already doing!

In regards to piecing etc. I am not sure where we stand, I am certain that there will be some bumps in the road and we have had a few. But, I am very excited that life seems so much more enjoyable now than it did before the seperation. Also in regards to Christmas gifts etc, our hero observed the Act As If approach and acted as if nothing has changed between the two of them and was met with some very loving responses on Christmas morning!

Our heros will go back to MC on the 10th so there is some time to continue the work. And the puppies are out of town with Grandma and Grandpa until Sunday!!!!

So for those of you that have made it this far in my inanely long post, I really wish you the best in your sitch. I hope that my success will inspire you as in Mid October I NEVER thought that I would be home again, let alone sharing my bed and my life with my beautiful wife again. We have had very few convos about OM, but I know he is out of the picture. She has made some comments about how it will be weird to see him again in Vegas for their work conference in April, but I am confident that there will not be any problems.

I will post an additional message soon on what has worked for me to get to this point for those of you still fighting. But, I feel so ashamed of my success as some of you have been fighting the good fight for so long and while my S lasted only two months it seemed like an eternity.

I will keep posting from time to time, but I do wish you all well!