In my opinion, your H is carefully picking and choosing the bible teachings he wants to, and ignoring a good bit of the rest. Don't let him get away with that. What happened to love, cherish and respect? I hope someone that can quote 'chapter and verse' so to speak, but don't let him use the 'submission' thing against you.

I did a Google, and found this. I didn't read it all, but it does seem to have some info that applies to you:
http://members.tripod.com/~Battered_Helpmate/index-2.html