Just judging from both my own experiences and the many others on this board, she will ALWAYS have a "if you'd just do _____," or "If I just had _______ ," or "Maybe after the _______," list going.
Those are diversions. Either she has issues that she's willing to deal with, or you'll just have to resign yourself to the fact that your libidos will never be close to the same. Only you know if that's a dealbreaker for you -- we can't answer that for you. What we CAN tell you is, there are a ton of us out here who wish we'd made the decision early on, before kids were involved.
