Well,

That is certainly alot to digest.

The questions about what you should do now, well you have the answers already.

See what works. Change them if they don't work.

Questions for you:
Is he still doing drugs and drinking?

You have seen that some DBing works, and you realize that you would do things differently if you get another chance.

Good for you.


Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet