Children caught in the middle

[Patrick325]

I guess it is a way to control, but I see it a way to shock and wake her up from this one sided thinking. Maybe it's a sign of my desperation but she keeps talking about D and is hanging out with the neighbor OM....I'm scared and willing to do anything to get her back. I have tried a lot of things and I have been Dbing pretty well since I moved out. But it doesn't seem to be working too well. She is still very angry, suspicious, and self centered...maybe I'm not cut out for this?