hey Mike, I hear you, I totally do, dealing with same thing here. I do understand that she is taking anti-Ds, I guess they are not helping any, depends how long she's been on them, I know they take their time to work. Asides from a psychiatrist who prescribes the meds, is she seeing a psychologist? would she accept that you come to one session? My H has been on robot mode for months which led to his contact with ow twice, even as he tried half-heartedly to be in the M his depression won over and he screwed up royally. Our new MC admitted that it will be hard to see our issues with depression clouding his mind, much like my H your W is unhappy with herself, doesnt' know what she wants and is unable to truly connect with you.
A good book you can get to help you (and which I think I will also get to refresh my memory ) is "Talking to Depression: Simple Ways To Connect When Someone In Your Life Is Depressed" by Claudia J. Strauss
It is hard, for us, the "undepressed" to understand where they are coming from, it is easy for us to say "well, you know what to do, just do it!". It is a terrible illness.
Give her some space, let things settle down for a bit before you make any decision or push her to give you something she just isn't able to give you now. Hang in there pal
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
