It just seems like the more I start things and the more I appear to enjoy it, the more he questions me. I'm just trying to ignore the "can't you just be happy that I'm trying" thoughts and focus on why I'm doing it... to make him feel good.
Ann,
His questioning is a way to try and fix it, he is showing care through that. Remember that guys want to fix it, if he can find out why does she want to, well then I can use that all the time. Were you as a women are thinking aren't we happy that were trying, cooperating and working together.
Its a tough one, because there is nothing more important to a guy than the whole manhood issue, and if he feels something was lacking in the bedroom, he's probably pretty hurt. Now that your back to acting on those urges, he is going "What changed? I better figure it out quick, so she doesn't run away from me again." As he searches and searches, not realizing it isn't him so much as it is you, he gets more frustrated cause he can't find the answer. When our W's are unhappy, while the have a right to be, guys usually blame themselves, thinking they failed in some aspect.
