I have been divorced. I know, for a fact, that the process alone and everything that follows is worse than having a sex starved M with a a man who is generally loving, kind, great parent, good financial custodian, does chores, fun to be around, supports me in my work and as a person etc... All of those things are why I stay. My prior experience with D is why I don't go. If H didn't bring the positives to the table, if he treated me like crap, if he couldn't keep a job, if he treated the kids badly then the pain of D wouldn't weigh out like it does. I can't D on behalf of having a SL, I just can't do it. And even though I could find a dozen penny ante reasons to throw in too to make it sound better - the truth would be that sex was the only reason. MJ and Corri had other very significant reasons, sex was merely a by-product. I don't pretend that there are no other issues but they just aren't that significant and I'm not motivated to go around looking for more significant stuff to justify myself.
Thank you Karen. I kind of figured that was the case. Different parts of our marriages, but that is basically what I'm dealing with as well. IC is all the above when it comes to parenting, loving etc...Just this one lone black eye that we've got to deal with.
