I remember saying a while ago (I really don't want to think about how long it was) that alcohol might one thing in this situation that might prevent things from working. And you can't take care of that one for him. Though, forcing the issue may help to find out what his real priorities are. I wonder if he thought (subconsciously, most likely) that you wouldn't call him on it because he knows you want to reconcile?
I know this isn't what you wanted to do, but I also know that the safety of your kids comes above anything else. So, I don't think you have a lot of choice. The story isn't over yet, but you've put the ball in his court, where it has to be now. I hope it doesn't go ugly, but I know that you can handle it!
