W finally called this morning. She talked to each of the kids for about 2-3 minutes and then told them that she was going away and wouldn't call them for a week. Nice!
I knew she was doing something over Christmas because that is why she wanted me to have the kids. She still hasn't told me what though. I finally gave in and asked the kids but being 8 and 5 the answer I got was "She is going to a warm island to hand out shoes." ?!?!?! Grain of salt time I guess.
They say that she is going with OW and OWs friends. I'm sure she will tell me at some point, but I won't ask. That being said, wouldn't it be the responsible thing to do to leave me contact information in case I had to get in touch with her about the kids????
Everyday I become more and more sure that this is not about me. She is so lost.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
Imageer, sorry to hear about your situation. It is really strange how a mother can forget about her kids. It seems to be a sign of that mental breakdown the MLC goes through. At least you have your kids to keep your spirits up during the holiday. I had mine for most of the holiday too and it was a great comfort. It helps to forget about my W being with OM. We have lots of fun and laughs..it's good for them and me!
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon
I asked a few more questions of the kids .... Bad Imageer, I know.
They didn't know what island W was going to but after I named a few it sounds like W is going to Cuba. I'm Canadian, we an go there for vacation. However, it wouldn't be my choice. I know a few people that have gone and they don't tell good stories about it. There are also no men going by what the kids say. Plus there is the handing out shoes thing. I'm a little concerned about her now. I hope she is careful. She can be a little naive and sometimes too trusting of people.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
I think you should let her know your concerned without prying about where she is going. When my W tells me things (like not taking care of herelf) I tell her my concerns and I think she likes it. As long as I don't tell her that she "has" to do something. She was sick a couple of weeks ago, coughing really bad. But she would go for these 3 or 4 mile walks at 8:00 at night. I tried to tell her she should take a break from excercising until she was feeling better. She has become an excersising fanatic since this all started. She lost about 25lbs and looks great but lately she seems to be losing too much and looks run down.
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon
She has had plenty of opportunity to tell me and she hasn't so she is purposely keeping it from me. If I ask her she will think I pryed it out of the kids. If I express concern, she will think that I'm jealous or controlling or paranoid. In the end she will still go. I think I'm better to wait until she brings it up to me.
However, you are correct in expressing concern for your W in your sitch. I have done the same in the past.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
...Plus there is the handing out shoes thing. I'm a little concerned about her now. I hope she is careful. She can be a little naive and sometimes too trusting of people.
Another trait like my W. Are you sure we aren't married to the same woman? Of course my W isnt in Cuba.
Imageer, you are right about her being lost and it not being about you. Her continuous search is going to yield nothing except the realization you are not the problem. She can keep running but it will be "in place".
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
