burned another 100 posts. so onto another . Cog, i appreciat all your wisdom . not going to post as much. i just bash my wife when i am on here. no more. love her unconditionally. i see myself changing more and more. something happened over the weekend. my reaction was just not there, no anger, only sadness and next resolve to beat this divorce . normally i would have gotten really mad, not this time. the Lord is working on both of us , i just need to wait. make my self the most lovable man possible, and love her no matter what she does or says. thanks Cog. i will check back in every so often.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
COG,i was reading some of your older posts. you wrote all your prayers down, and put a check mark next to the ones that were answered. great idea, i will do tonight. many prayers have been answered. great source of inspiration.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
COG, want to thank you again for your brotherly advice last week. i appreciate your no holds bar approach. i can say now i have found a peace in my soul concerning the the situation. i am learning to love my wonderful wife unconditionally. i am learning to give it to the Lord, and not be critical, judgemental. it gives me a peace i have not had during this whole ordeal.makes things around the house a lot more comfortable. i can pray for specific things. now have a prayer list and can check off answered prayer. i can ask God for the entire enchilada.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
wishing everyone a merry christmas. i hope and pray everyone can experience God's presence this christmas. i pray for a lot of miracles in all our marriages in 2008. everyone take care.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
have not posted for a while, w is out of town for a week visiting her mother . talked about filing d papers and moving to friends house weeks ago. she said she would wait until after christmas. my question is , this would be a 180 for me, should i mention to her that when she is ready to move out, i will help her move her bed and what ever else she will need. or do i just not say anything and see if she really decides to move out.i have not pursued or pushed her on anything.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I am no expert, however, I would avoid the topic altogether. Furthermore, if this does go through I would not offer help unless she asked for it. I don,t know if this is the DB way...just my gut feeling. Hang in there, take this week to get stronger. I know it's hard but try to do something fun for yourself and not dwell on what may or may not happen when she comes back.
