Children caught in the middle

[Patrick325]

What should a father do if his MLC wife is bringing your kids over the OM house and they don't want to? I have 3 D's 14, 12,12 and my oldest told my W that she doesn't want to go over to OM house because he ruined my W and I's marriage. We have been seperarted for a month and she is over their constantly with or without the kids. She'll sit over there and leave the kids home. My oldest is really upset and I try to tell her she needs to speak to her mom about what is bothering her. We split time with the kids 50/50 already and I don't want to take them away from her. My D and my wife have been butting heads for a few years but when I was there I kind of kept the oldest in line. I spoke to her on the phone and told her I know it's very tough for them right now. It tears me up!! But I can't keep them away from her. The worst thing is that 4 months ago I said in MC that she was having an EA with this guy and she denied it..now they are "dating" or so she says. UGGGH!