my wife will also not do anything because of the kids, therefore, being spontaneous is out.
the well is beginning to run dry. there is nothing to turn her on. when i do see signs and act upon them, it turns out to be a mirage. that's the most frustrating part of this: thinking i see signs, but they're nothing.
there is nothing i can do that can get her going. going away is not the answer, because the few times we have been alone in the house or away, all she wants to do is relax and not have to be bothered with sex. many people have told me to go away with her, but i already know that she would only want to do everything but have sex. then she'd say that i only wanted to go away to have sex and not really be with her.
i would also and have caught hell going out the few times every 3 or 4 months!! you would think that staying away would create a sexually need, but it doesn't.
i even tried to have sex this morning, and she wouldn't even think of it! she told me that she just wasn't in the mood--and it's been a month since we last did it!!! the point is that she doesn't even think twice about saying no!! she doesn't even think about how i am feeling or how long ago it was and maybe just maybe she should give herself up and do something nice for me!! that's all i want in life: the romance and sex i once had with her from the beginning, because i know that my sex drive is also going to be ending for me as well as i get older and i want to make the best of what is remaining, and realistically, i wish it already was over.
i feel that i already know what to do yet can't get myself to do it. i know that i should occupy my time doing things for me, and make time for myself without her, but then i start to think that if i just watch a movie with her that i am not even interested in i'll get laid, or maybe going to the store with her will get me something in return, but it doesn't: she is and knows she is in the driver's seat.
