The emotional rollercoaster does that to us. Nothing makes sense. You have no appearance of control over the situation.
With regards to items in the house, they are only material items and rank well below your marriage. I know many people will worry about what they get out of the marriage but they are not important. The only importance is children and your spouse. I do agree putting a password on your computer. I have done the same thing.
Placing value on material items speaks volumes about where people are in importance to someone. On the other hand, I do not intentionally try to give anything of ours to my wife unless she asks for it and I don't need it. She has even made comments about our cat coming to live with her and I have no issue if the cat is at her house. Our D is allergic to cats anyway. I have recommended to my W to buy an air purifier so if our D wants to spend the night, she shouldn't have an allergic reaction.
The point I am making is that once we get to worrying about items that are of no importance, it is harder to focus on the really important things, like our marriages. I am not saying you are doing this, I am saying most people do end up concentrating on areas in order to get what they feel is their fair share.
What your H has done is so very wrong. I recommend not to join the game. It is so easy to do and I have caught myself doing that many times.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
