So.....the next interesting bit. To purchase the car, and pay some loans, he took out a loan on his government retirement account. He did this, WITHOUT my signature, which is apparently required, and an crime prosecutable by the Department of Justice. He either forged my signature, or said he wasn't married.
My h did the same thing a couple of years ago, while in the (hopefully) worst part of his gambling addiction He forged my signature, a level of deception I would never have even thought possible. I just wanted to let you know that your h is not the only one to sink to such lows.