Sounds like good advice NH!
I am hoping to meet with my attorney today. Trying to follow the good cop / bad cop approach. (I'm the good cop)

Any other advice out there for me?
Ignore the affair, eh?

I have to go retrieve my copy of DR and re-read it!

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S14 S13 D11 D7
Divorce final: Jan 2009
Making it up as I go....