But Wow! I can't imagine a mother saying those things to a child, grown or not. How to ruin all the work you ever put into raising a child in one fell swoop! So mean.
Seriously. She didn't even raise him. She got pregnant before she got married, (while she was engaged) and when she found out she was P she broke off her engagement. She said it was too much pressure. H's Dad talked her back into getting married and she relented and got married prior to H's birth. H's dad had an affair within 2 years of them being married and took off when H was 2 or 3. MIL couldn't handle raising H so she gave him to her Mother to be raised. H was raised by his G'ma and G'pa. His mom is more like a sister to him. H didn't even know any of this until this year. His Dad also never missed a child support payment - ever. But for some reason H has never spoken to his Dad. MIL won't say why except that he isn't a good man. I think MIL prevented that R from ever growing. She didn't want her XH having a better R with her son than she did. So sad. Anyway, MIL always paints her XH out to be awful, and what he did (the A) was awful, but he must have cared for his son. He wouldn't have paid child support every month for 18 years if he didn't love his kid.
And yes, MIL is extremely mean to say anything along those lines. That's why when H said, Em, grab your things we're going, I did.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
