Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

so... anyone have anything to offer on the various puzzles I presented?
- getting sexually aroused while looking at wife's face. Should I just chalk this up to the 10-month forced celebacy period?
- what do I do about the newly refreshed A activity I learned about? Ignore? acknowledge?
- should I advise W that I know she is still seeing (fcuking) OM? should I advise her that OM is seeing (fcuking) other people?

also, one new angle.
W disclosed that she has a large rash on her side. To me this is just more symptoms of stress. Should I contact her to inquire how she is doing? That feels like lack of detachment here.

Sheesh, I am not a good DBer at all. I don't know what to do.

Another thread I read tonight had a man sending his WAS a heartfelt letter. I thought that was out-of-bounds for DBing?