is he too young for MLC?

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I am very surprised at myself right now. H has been texting abd we had a brief convo and I am not mad. This is not my usual reaction to his behavior. But these last few weeks I haven't gotten mad at all. I have been very calm. Maybe some of the things coming out of my mouth were not quite right but I have not gone of the deep end with him. Even after not spending x-mas with him.

Today he texted me and wanted to send me an email. Which he changed his mind on. So I told him that was fine to do what makes him happy. He thought I was being sarcastic. I told him I wasn't and it was up to him what he did. So I got no email but I think I confused him because I didn't beg for it. he wanted to tell me everything face to face. i didn't bite. We don't talk when we are together we just end up in bed. So I didn't push him coming here. And yes I know I should talk R with him when he wants to but I know better. He would get here and there would be no talking. He is lonely and misses his family but much to stubborn to try to fix this right now. So I am backing off and not going to let him cake eat. I think I have been doing that all along and it is not helping. He needs to really miss me. It is going to have to really hurt for him to want to work this out. All of this back and forth stuff is not helping us at all. We are good together and HE needs to remember that. i can't make him, he has to do it on his own. This may not be very good DBing but I can't imagine that you need to be so used and abused all the time either. I still validated his feelings and I still talked to him, I just can't let him use me like a revolving door.